Yes, you believe you have tried everything. I have walked in your shoes as a parent and I have stood in your teenager's shoes.
You have tried punishment.
You have tried grounding.
You have tried keeping them from hanging around certain people.
You have yelled, screamed and blew up on them.
You have tried therapy for them.
You have tried therapy for yourself.
You have tried therapy for the dog. Well maybe not yet.
You have tried to let your partner deal with it.
You have stopped their allowance.
You have taken away their cell phone.
Banned them from social media.
Are we missing anything?
LET ME GUESS. None of this has worked!
They know that you have no leverage on them that is why none of this worked!
THEY ARE THE ONES WITH ALL THE LEVERAGE. Because as a parent our job is to keep them safe and secure in hopes that one day they will grow up to be a decent functioning adult that will move out of your house, get a job and possibly start a family.
THEY KNOW THAT IS IS YOUR JOB AS A PARENT.
UNFORTUNATELY, THEY HAVE MADE IT THEIR JOB TO MAKE YOURS AS
HARD AS POSSIBLE.