ARE YOU A PARENT THAT IS...

 LOOKING FOR HOPE?

looking to try something different?

searching for a better way to parent?

looking for a way to speak your child's language?

searching for a lifeboat in a sea of chaos?

Have you stopped sleeping? Are you Waiting for the phone to ring? Waiting for that knock on the door in the middle of the night? Scared of what they might be doing; smokingdrugsdrinking, hanging around with the wrong crowd? Breaking every rule in your house?
Is the pressure of all this making you depressed, distant and neglecting your life, your spouse and other children?
Are you fearful of them dying?

HERE IS THE REALITY OF IT ALL!
SUICIDE IS THE 2nd LEADING CAUSE OF DEATHS AMONG 15-24 YEAR OLD'S.
DRUG OVERDOSES ARE THE 4th LEADING CAUSE OF DEATHS AMONG 15-24 YEAR OLD'S.

Are you beyond being overwhelmed? You tried everything to communicate with your child? But you feel as though you are both speaking different languages? They stopped listening and they don't obey any of your rules.
Are you losing hope? Do you sit there and wonder why this is happening to you? Asking yourself what happened to my family?
Are you fearful of what is coming next?

Well don't stress you are not alone. There are so many parents out their struggling with the same challenges with their children...but they won't say a word about it...especially in the social media world we live in. Everyone on Facebook has a perfect life. THAT IS SO UNTRUE.
But you still fear being judged as being a bad parent?
It's time to stop the self punishment and do something different.
Have you given up on life and the pursuit of your own happiness
If you have, your child has you right where they want you. 
IN THEIR CONTROL.
Yes, you believe you have tried it all? Yet, they are still defiant. Doing what they want, when they want and turning you and your family's world into a living nightmare. They say terrible things to you, ignore you, belittle you, make you feel stupid, lie, create chaos and they seem to be on a fast track to drugs, prison or death!
THEY HAVE NO REGARD FOR ANYONE ELSE'S FEELINGS.
THEY HAVE NO RESPECT FOR YOU AS A PARENT.
NO CONSEQUENCES FOR THEIR ACTIONS.
THEY FEEL YOUR RULES DON'T APPLY TO THEM.
  • Hanging around with friends you don't approve of.
  •  Sleeping all day and stay out all night.
  •  Obsessed with video games.
  • ​Ignore your phone calls.
  • ​Afraid what they are going to do next
  • Started vaping.
  • Falling behind in school.
  • Stopped going to school.
  • ​Quit their job.
  • ​Don't have a job
  • ​Drinking alcohol.
  • ​Become untrustworthy
  • ​Stealing from you.
  •  Smoking weed.
  •  Doing drugs.
  •  Never listens to anything you have to say.
  • ​Constantly getting in trouble.
  • ​Hating and Resenting you
  • ​Don't appreciate anything
  • ​Have talked about running away
  • Depressed and distant.
  •  Talking about suicide.
  • Abusive to you and their siblings.
  • ​Been arrested.
  • ​Been to jail.
  • ​Becoming Aggressive and violent.
  • ​They are entitled
Yes, you believe you have tried everything. I have walked in your shoes as a parent and I have stood in your teenager's shoes. BUT STILL THEY BREAK ALL THE RULES
You have tried punishment.
You have tried grounding.
You have tried keeping them from hanging around certain people.
You have yelled, screamed and blew up on them.
You have tried therapy for them.
You have tried therapy for yourself.
You have tried therapy for the dog. Well maybe not yet.
You have tried to let your partner deal with it.
You have stopped their allowance.
You have taken away their cell phone.
Banned them from social media.
Am I missing anything?
Good, because punishment never works. It only fuels their anger and
creates revenge fantasies.
LET ME GUESS. None of this has worked!
What's next?
They know that you have no leverage on them that is why none of this worked!
THEY ARE THE ONES WITH ALL THE LEVERAGE. Because as a parent our job is to keep them safe and secure in hopes that one day they will grow up to be a decent functioning adult that will move out of your house, get a job and possibly start a family.
THEY KNOW THAT IS IS YOUR JOB AS A PARENT. 
UNFORTUNATELY, THEY HAVE MADE IT THEIR JOB TO MAKE YOURS AS 
HARD AS POSSIBLE.
BUT WHY?
Because you don't understand the world they are living in and they are looking for a place to escape because they don't trust anyone, even you as their parent. The rules you have created don't work because they don't understand them, they feel like you are controlling them, they don't see the logic behind them and they are never consistent.
Our research working in prisons, sober homes, substance abuse clinics has shown that a high percentage of teens that go down the wrong path do so because of a parenting failure, neglect or the inability to communicate properly with their parent.

Our research also shows that their troubling behavior begins between the ages of 12-15 years old. When a child becomes disconnected from their parent.
They end up disconnecting for a range or reasons; divorce, working parents, traveling parents, not enough time with parents, parents not seeing or hearing them, trauma at a young age, loss of a loved one or unaddressed mental health issues to name a few.

THEY LOSE THEIR CONNECTION WITH US AND GET CONNECTED WITH THEIR TEEN TRIBE
THAT IS BAD FOR EVERYONE BECAUSE THEY LOSE THEIR POWER TO THINK AS
AN INDIVIDUAL AND MAKE THEIR OWN CHOICES.
WHICH IS GOING TO BE THE WORST CASE FOR YOU AS A PARENT AND THEIR FUTURE.

What do you need?
A way to create rules that make sense to them. 
A way to communicate with them in their language.
 A way to bring them back into your parenting Sphere of influence. 
A way to get them to understand you and your feelings. 
A way for everyone to get a long and be a loving family that you always dreamed of having.
Does this sound about right?
Would a playbook help you? With some recipes to help you connect and create rules that everyone can agree upon?

  • Learn why you are not getting through to your child.
  • ​Discover why punishment never works
  • ​Understand how they see your rules and why they break them.
  • ​Learn how to listen to your children so they can hear you
  • ​Discover how you can all live under one room with love, trust, honor and respect. 
  •  Understand what your child needs to feel loved
  •  Help your child understand what you need to have for them to be safe
  • Finally everyone will get on the same page and be a family
  • ​Bonding exercises that will help  you be a stronger family
  • ​No more punishing, bad behavior problems and acts of aggression 
  •  This guide will help you love each other even more.
  • ​Help you all understand what the other is going through
  • ​Finally end the arguments, the yelling and door slamming.
  • ​Finally get some sleep at night
  • ​Step by step journey to a home filled with harmony.
THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE AND SMALL WINDOWS OF OPPORTUNITY TO REACH THEM BEFORE IT'S TO LATE.
THEY KEY TO FINDING THE WINDOWS IS RESOURCEFULNESS!
or
YOU COULD GO BACK TO YOUR PHONE AND 
SCROLL THROUGH FACEBOOK AND SEE EVERYONE'S "PERFECT LIFE!!!".
WATCH THE CRISIS NEWS NETWORK AND SEE SOMEONE ELSE'S LIFE BLOW UP.
CATCH UP ON SOME RIDICULOUS REALITY TV SHOW. WISHING THAT WERE YOUR LIFE.
GO BACK TO BED HOPING YOU CAN SLEEP TONIGHT. 
PRAYING THAT THE PHONE DOESN'T RING AND NOBODY KNOCKS ON YOUR DOOR WITH THAT NEWS THAT NO PARENT IS EVER PREPARED FOR.
OR YOU CAN STEP UP NOW AND SEIZE AN OPPORTUNITY TO BE RESOURCEFUL AND ATTEMPT SOME THINGS 
THAT YOU HAVEN'T TRIED.
THE WINDOWS DON'T STAY OPEN FOREVER.
WHEN THEY SHUT THOSE OPPORTUNITIES 
CAN NEVER BE RECAPTURED.
SOMETIMES WHEN THEY SHUT...THEY SHUT FOR GOOD!
THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO A PARENT IS HAVING A REGRET ABOUT NOT GIVING IT 1000%.
DON'T REGRET NOT TAKING THIS OPPORTUNITY!
Because sometimes second chances are not guaranteed. 
BELIEVE US WE KNOW
ALL IT TAKES IS STEP #1 TO CREATE THAT SHIFT YOU NEED TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THEIR WORLD AND YOURS.